It's in their words – when they're not watching. "I have to", "I have obligations", "it's my duty". They've convinced themselves that it's what they want. And they do. They're not wrong.
As if living by obligation is some kind of higher order that only mature and responsible people are capable of.
The most dangerous things are those closest to us:
Because they are our temptations, the seductions, the attachments, the psychological needs for safety – all that “proves” and validates our existence.
Because without them, we don’t know who we are.
We usually say, “I don’t understand.”
More often we mean, “I don’t agree.”
Or, more subconsciously, “What I’m understanding makes me uncomfortable.”
So what is understanding?